19 April 2011




I have been remiss in not reporting the FANTASTIC weather we’ve been having here in southeastern Norway. The warmer temperatures began in early April and the thermometer has been inching up every day since. Yesterday was like a summer’s day! It felt like 20C (68F) in the sun in our garden yesterday afternoon---sooo nice. We deserve this weather after the long, cold winter we put up with.

All of the snow has melted around here, save for a stubborn patch in the schoolyard adjacent to our property.



The grass is starting to turn green, little flowers have bloomed, and still more are popping up here and there. The trees around our place haven’t begun to bud yet but look like they’re thinking hard about doing so.





It’s amazing how quickly the memory of -20C, ice-filled days can vanish from my brain. To think the street looked like this just a few weeks ago:



Yesterday was the first day of the annual week-long Easter break for school children in Norway; they will be joined by most everyone else in Norway on Thursday, the first day of the five-day Easter holiday celebrated here. Yes, that’s five days, because the Monday after Easter is a holiday, too. It’s called Second Easter and even though I don’t know the religious origin of the day, I’ll gladly accept it as time off.

I could use a break, too. I’ve taken on a couple of extra projects at the school where I work and the time commitment required has really been kicking my ass. It has been enlightening for me, though, in a weird way. For one of the projects, I have to submit written “progress reports,” which is easy enough, no problem. BUT…two weeks ago, one of the people who read one of my reports came to me and said something like, “Wow, Michele, I read your report! It’s so astute and articulate! I was surprised!”

I was confused by this remark. I responded with, “Um, thanks?”

He said, “Yeah, I read it and thought, this isn’t the Michele I know.”

WTF? And then it dawned on me…. He thinks I’m stupid! Ouch!

This isn’t the first time this has happened to me. I think I must give off the impression of being a bit dim. Maybe it’s the blond hair, or the way I talk like a cross between a Valley Girl and a surfer? Or because I joke around too much? Or talk too much? I don’t know. I asked Husband if I come across as thick and he said no, but that I do smile a lot and say chirpy, nice things and act goofy sometimes and probably some people take that “the wrong way.”

In any case, that comment at work hurt my feelings. I mean, making a first impression as a dimwit is one thing, but I’ve worked at the school for almost a year now, so first impressions should have gone by the wayside ages ago. So the only explanation is….he thinks I’m stupid! Do other people at work share that opinion? Is it because I’m a 48-year-old kindergarten assistant? Do people think I do that job because I’m not capable of doing anything else?

Ah well, it’s too nice outside to worry too much about this bullshit. I really like working with the kids at school, so I’ll concentrate on that and think about the rest when I get back to work next week. I’ve got some homework to do right now and then it’s into the garden for me. Spring is here!!


7 comments:

Corinne said...

You do not come across as stupid at all. Quite the opposite, in fact. Though there are always assholes on this planet. My favorites are the male students in my class who think I'm a babbling idiot because I have tits and a girl hairstyle. I know they think this because they address my boobs while smugly correcting me on concepts they clearly don't understand. You should prepare a couple of wicked zingers for the next time old boy makes idiot comments.

Caroline said...

No, you don't come across as a 'dimwit'! His attitude is not really a refection of your intelligence but rather a lack of his perception. Which I think doesn't say much about him....

Jon said...

You are obviously not mentally challenged. As a chronic underachiever and poster child for, "life was what happened while he was making other plans," I often get to surprise people by putting together an intelligent phrase now and then. It's fun to see the bewildered looks I get in return. Have fun with perceptions!

Emily said...

Was it written in Norwegian? I think it is much easier to sound smart when writing a foreign language than it is when speaking a foreign language...you can correct any errors before anyone sees them, & use the dictionary if you are searching for a word. My written Norwegian was beautiful, my spoken Norwegian was, um, remedial. (Of course, if it was written in English, I have no excuses for the guy, he's a jackass!)
Emily

Michele said...

Hi Corinne! Thank you for the reassurance and the reminder that sexism is alive and well, even in 30-something men who seem cool and nice and who should know better. I was so caught up worrying about why he thinks I'm stupid, I forgot to consider he might assume ALL women are stupid. For the love of Pete, will this shit ever die out? Those guys in your class, how old are they? Not 16, I presume. And yet they're talking to your boobs? That is just so f-ing depressing...

Hi Caroline and thank you. I really was taken by surprise by his comment, and hadn't been able to let it go. I think I can do that now.

Hi Jon. You and I have a lot in common, my fellow life-wandering underachiever. :-) I like your attitude and will give that a try. I mean, as long as WE know we're not halfwits, that's what counts, right?

Hallo Emily!! I WISH I had written that report in Norwegian--that would have been awesome. Nah, we use English at work (which is killing my norsk, absolutely killing it), so he was uber impressed by my ability to scribble out several paragraphs in my native language. I tried to look at it as a compliment but I just couldn't quite get there... :-)

Wendy said...

Hi Michele.

I had a similar experience while I was a high-school exchange student participating in a "videregående" English class.

When handing back my graded essay, the "elderly" male teacher said he'd never awarded a "6" (or an A+)to anyone's assignment. But on this occasion, he had no other choice, because he could find no error or make no suggestion for improvement. He was stunned that anyone, especially an exchange student, could write so well.

When I said, "English is my native language," he corrected me saying, "No, that would be American English."

On that day, I learned an important lesson: Some people are pompous. But, why get upset? If someone can rattle your cage, YOU give them power. Instead, be confident in your abilities. It's what counts most. :)

Michele said...

Hi Wendy! Wow, that instructor you had was certainly pompous. "American English." Sheesh. I wish I had the self-confidence to rise above situations like this but, sadly for me, I have self-esteem issues that make it difficult. My condition isn't crippling, though, so if I spend only a few days feeling bad about myself, that's a success for me. At 48, I'm probably not going to change, so I just try to minimize the whinging. :-)